Connect to a Friends Computer Using Remote Access in Windows XP

If you have Windows XP it has built in remote access software that helps you connect to a friends computer, by invitation, to help them by taking remote access control of their computer system.

This means you could be in the USA and connect to a friends computer in Australia to find a solution to his or her computer problems.

The technology to gain remote access to basically anyone’s computer is available on most computer users start menu. I regularly give my friends computer support from the comfort of my own

What you need to use the Help and Support tool to gain remote access

  1. An broadband or cable internet connection.
  2. Windows Xp on both computers. Here is how to connect using remote assistance in Windows Seven.
  3. An email address or be signed into Windows Live messenger.

It is very easy to connect two computers over the internet. One computer can take control and fix problems on the other computer. Following these steps to use the Help and support software that is built in to Windows.

1. Sign in to Windows Live Messenger and have your friend do the same thing.
2. Go to the start menu and choose Help and Support (shown below) Just the computer user that wants to invite does this.

Windows xp start menu

3. The Help and Support Center will appear. Click on Invite a Friend to connect to your computer with Remote Assistance. Located under the Ask For Assistance menu.

Help and support remote assistance

4. Then press Invite someone to help you. The window below will appear.

remote assistance connect

5. Choose your friends name from the Windows Messenger contact list.
6. Click on Invite this person.
7. This will allow your friend to see your desktop. If they want to control your they must press the Take control button and the other person must agree by pressing ok..
8. Check out the last Screenshot below…This is what I see when I am in control of my friends computer…I can go on the internet or read their emails etc..


  1. says

    Great article regarding remotely connecting to a friend’s computer in order to provide remote support. Nowadays, many people are deploying on premise remote support appliance such as Bomgar or RHUB appliances in order to avoid monthly cost as compared to hosted services and to offer free technical remote support to their family members, friends, relatives etc. Some people also use various remote support tools such as logmeinrescue, gosupportnow, GoToMyPC etc. for providing remote technical support.

  2. says

    Hi Joe
    It would be difficult for you to do that as you would need to use some software for the connection. You could run a few diagnostics and fix something for him if he can access Windows to connect to you.

  3. hana says

    can i enter and monitor in other computer withaout invitation , its urgent and is there any wyas, pls let me know

  4. fawaz says

    hey…my wifes pc need assistance from me…she is in another country…as you explained, she sent an invitation to me, i got that, but while connecting an error pops up saying could not connect….can you help me with this…